What To Do When You Discover

Your Christian Son Is Gay

The Real-Life Way To Raise A Gay Teen

Keith Michael
10 min readSep 10, 2022


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According to Gallup, you have a 1 in 14 chance of being Gay, or Lesbian, or Bi, or simply not straight. (In this article I will use the umbrella term “gay” to mean any of the above sexual orientations.) As such, being gay, in general, encompasses about 7% of the US population—at least according to Gallup’s methodology, which is “self-identifying”.

However, in my personal experience, I believe that number is much higher, perhaps closer to 1 in 5, or 20% of the population. And depending on where you live, that number could be anywhere in-between—or even higher.

I don’t think “self-identifying” is wholly accurate of the actual genetics either, because the Church still represses people into not admitting what they know about themselves. They just cannot admit, or they feel too fearful to admit, who they really and truly are.

The point is, it’s a BIG number. 7% of the US population is about 23 million people.

Being gay is not the result of culture, or some sin the Church manufactured from the primitive writings of its Bible.

We are gay because it is genetic. Period.

What do I back this up with? My family. My experience. Nothing more. Take it for what it’s worth to you. But I’m not wrong.

Growing Up Gay in a Christian Home

I knew I was gay (bi actually) when I was 6 years old. Of course back then, growing up sheltered in a small-town Christian home, I didn’t have the foggiest of ideas about anything culturally “gay”. I just wasn’t raised around it. But I knew what I liked and I liked looking at both men and women. Either sex can be a turn-on for me; I’ve always been this way.

I grew up rather ignorant of my sexuality. In those days, being raised in the Church, no one talked about it. But as I grew into my mid teens, I would learn the deep dark family secret—that both of my uncles were gay. My grandfather even disowned one of my uncles…



Keith Michael

Having spent the better part of 40 years in the Church, I’m on a Crusade with millions of others being led by GOD to Reform the Church. KeithMichael.org