Diana, I find your responses difficult to ingest, you’re kind of all over the place and very wordy.
Regarding “adultery” the definitions of adultery are all over the board within both Judaism and Christianity. The Church edited the gospels to show Jesus saying whatever they wanted to promote (Misquoting Jesus, Ehrman), so of course we see Jesus pontificating whatever the Church wanted to proscribe about marriage.
Historically adultery had nothing to do with anything that happened outside of marriage. During the Reformation and into the modern era, what constitutes adultery has also changed dramatically.
Finally, if you want to know where I stand, stop trying to read between the lines and just read my words. You’ll then know what I think and believe.
Blessings.